A New Year Dawns
With one looking backward and the other looking forward, the two-faced Roman god Janus symbolizesÂ the wisdom which is gained from past experience and the path of progress which carries forth into theÂ future. It’s no wonder, then, that the beginning of every new year is called January.
If you’ve been giving some thought to what your 2016 New Year’sÂ resolutions should be, you’re among nearly 150 million otherÂ Americans who commit to improving themselves every year. ButÂ unless you’re part of the mere 8% who follows through, you’veÂ likely found yourself a few weeks into the new year with little motivation, having fallen short of your goals, and wondering why youÂ can’t seem to succeed no matter how determined you had been.
What’s the secret to eliminating bad habits and sticking to theÂ good ones in the long run? The conventional narrative tells usÂ that it’s all about willpower. Multi-million dollar corporations feedÂ consumerism by telling us to “just do it.” If we don’t succeed, it’sÂ because we’re too lazy, because we didn’t want it badly enough,Â or because we just can’t (this is the biggest lie we tell ourselvesÂ in life).
Recent research in the psychology of resolutions suggests a moreÂ charitable account. When you make a resolution, you’re not onlyÂ making a decision about the type of person you want to become;Â you’re also making a statement – often overly optimistic –Â about the type of person you are currently. When you tell yourself,Â “I’m going to be healthier next year,” you imply that you’re theÂ sort of person who can simply resolve to do so. When you don’tÂ succeed in the way you had planned, the failure appears as a lackÂ of willpower. The reality, however, is that the resolution set you upÂ for failure in the first place.
The good news is that this problem is easily overcome. RatherÂ than making vague resolutions to improve yourself, make specific, measurable, time-oriented goals about your behavior. InsteadÂ of making a resolution to “lose weight” or “get healthier,” commitÂ to going to the gym three times per week or to eating breakfastÂ every day before commuting to work. This way, if you fail, you’llÂ learn something about yourself and your behaviors, and you’llÂ be able to use those lessons to be more successful in the future.Â Isn’t that the spirit of Janus?
Cheers to a healthier you in 2016!